Today is my dad’s 64th birthday and would have been my mother’s 60th birthday.
It’s kind of cool and probably would of made for some killer parties had she not passed.
Now it might seem like a fun fact, randomness, or coincidence that they shared a birthday but it’s not. Well it is that they did, but not the fact that my brother and I share parents that share a birthday…
We were hanging with my always wonderful aunt Marla over Christmas and she was sharing teenager stories of her older (“cooler”) sister. My mom. There was a calendar that my small town put out that showed everyone’s birthday, and before there was interest in my father, my mom thought it was “cool” that they shared a birthday.
A small seed of intrigue that grew into watching
…then a marriage
…then a family.
It’s coincidence somewhat, but it’s also deeper than just that.
We are seeing and not seeing a lot at the same time. There are prompts and nudges all the time under the surface of who we are and what we’re thinking. Coincidence happens to all of us. Running into people somewhere random, sitting next to a stranger on both legs of a roundtrip flight, or sharing a very specific similar interest with someone we are around and then becoming aware of it.
Coincidences are when we experience something in reality that seems connected but unconscious. It seems random and unique, but I’d suggest that it isn’t. The surprise (or shock if it’s something negative) is us just now becoming aware.
The more awareness I strive for, the more coincidences I notice and the more coincidences I notice, the more awareness I have. I’m looking for more coincidences now instead of waiting to be shocked by them. (Although the “SURPRISE!!!” is still a fun moment). Connecting the dots is enjoyable because it connects my experience with yours and others.
I am a product of a coincidence, but that coincidence is a product of something eternal.